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Sue wants to know......

When you are angry with your partner/spouse do you raise  your voice, argue, throw-things or do you give them the silent treatment? Do you live by the rule "never go to bed angry?"

Comments

[Marisa]

Gee the only thing you left out of the first sentence was walk out! And then come back in later and then the silent treatment.

Must be the scorpion in me.

[colleen]

My voice my change a decible. I usually don't stay mad for long.

[Dak-Ind]

i whine and complain and nag and occasionally yell, however we really dont fight that often. i actually cant remember the last time we argued, but i never throw things or get violent at all. i also dont have the self control to shut up.

[karen]

I cry. I'm one of those that when I'm really angry, the tears come out. But I rarely stay angry for very long. Hubby,on the other hand, is all of the above. (Good thing I'm more mellow!)

[kenju]

I don't throw things, but I do get louder and louder as my anger rises. We argue over a lot of things (opposites attract) but we have been married for 42 years, so maybe it is good for us to clear the air, so to speak. I have been known to slam doors...lol

[Jennie]

I may have a short pan slamming session in the kitchen, but we talk about things almost immediately. I tend to clam up, but hubby likes throwing things out on the table and discussing, ruining my bad moods.

[Mamacita]

extreme civility. extreme.

[DebR]

If I'm only a little angry I'm like an annoying little yappy dog - talkTalkTALKing things to death until my husband probably *wishes* I'd give him the silent treatment.

If I'm hugely angry I become icy cold and rather vicious, and don't always give nearly enough thought to the consequences of what I'm saying or doing. (Luckily that doesn't happen often. I'm pretty even tempered.)

[Chrysalis]

Fight fight fight

[Jennifer]

I usually try to reason with him calmly, then when that doesn't work (and it never does) I usually come unglued and bawl my brains out. I am so tired of that routine, but it never ends, so at the moment we hardly talk at all...saves on arguments.

[MissMeliss]

I'm a screamer. Yelling is normal for me. I come from an Italian family, where everything is loud anyway...but once I've yelled, I'm DONE, I don't hold grudges. My husband, however, is from the midwest, is stoic, and holds grudges.

When I'm annoyed with him, I call him "farmboy," when I'm really really seething with anger, there's an expletive before the word "farmboy." It's alliterative. If you know what I mean.

[Paula]

Depending on the issue, I will either argue to the death or just shut up and be annoyed for days. I try not to be loud or slam things though cuz it upsets the kitty.

[Chrissie]

We usually yell at each other alot - unfortunately. Both of us can say unkind things to eachother at times too. Luckily though - neither of us can stay angry for long.

[Becky68]

When I had a significant other around he yelled, I cried, up until the last year or so before we got divorced. Then I started yelling back- probably part of what started the divorce...lol.

[AOC]

I try to talk aobut what has upset me. Both my spouse and I are calm people and can be pretty rational at most times. If I am upset enough to give the silent treatmetn, then I know I am in the wrong. If I was right or had any kind of valid point, i would have spoke up about it.