A Moving Question

Accordin to my friend Connie: friends do not ask friends to help them move.
Accordin to my friend Cindy: that's what friends are for.

When is the last time you helped someone move? Did your friends help you the last time you moved?

Comments

[Mamacita]

Well, you know what 'they' say: Friends help you move. Real friends help you move bodies.

I've helped many friends move, and I still love them. I've also helped my two kids move several times and I haven't disinherited them yet. They'll still inherit all my debt.

I agree with Cindy.

[Sparkling Diamond]

It has been on VERY rare occasions that a friend helped us move. The last several moves, we have done alone (hence why we seem to remain living in this tiny place instead of looking for something bigger)
The kids help and we always help them.
We considered purchasing a pick-up, just so at least we would have that the next time we do move. It is interesting that when it is time to move...the friends disappear. But then again...moving really does suck!

[kenju]

When we were much younger, we helped our friends and they helped us. I think the last time I was asked to help someone is when my daughter moved out of her house before the divorce. I am sure that when the time comes for us to move from where we live now, we will get help from our children (our friends are too old now...LOL)

[Janet]

I'm with Cindy...just recently I helped a friend move!

[Joan]

A whole bunch of friends helped me move from Denver to St. Louis at the end of last August. One even took off work and flew in (I used my miles to get him a free ticket) specifically to drive the big truck. A few months later, I helped another friend move into his new house, and I've helped many other friends move in years past.

I think if people know you're moving, a true friend will offer to help, so you won't have to ask.

[Leanne]

Friends help friends move.

Real friends have a slumber party to unpack all the boxes and arrange furniture.

Crappy friends just keep asking you to help them with stuff, and never even ask how you're doing.

That's how I see it. :)

[Jamie]

Friends help friends move. Or rip wallpaper from the walls. Or something else.

On the other hand the moving friends provide snacks and drinks for the helping friends and invite them to dinner somewhen later. That's about how it should work.

We didn't ask any friends when we moved the last time. My parents helped us and it worked out fine that way. But I'm pretty sure that our friends would have helped us had we asked.

[Marie]

I've helped with many moves & have had friends help me too. Though with the past couple of moves, I've hired people.

Once, several years ago, a pair of friends who are strong-men brothers weren't able to help me, at the last minute - due to the sudden death of a parent. I ended up calling more friends at midnight to ask for help, the night before I had to be out of my apartment. They said yes without hesitation. Friends do that.

[dena]

I helped a friend with her packing a couple of weeks ago. We always turn things like that into something fun. Lots of laughs are always part of it.

[Courtney]

Cindy's right.
The last time I moved, although friends didn't help during that week, my friend with an SUV was going to be in Floriday, and she lent me the SUV for the week, which saved me renting a truck.

[trinamick]

My friends and I always help each other move. Most of the time, they offer before I ever get the chance to ask, so I try to return the favor.

[cyndy]

I have a wonderful friend who has helped me move from a condo to a home and even organized for me!!!

[KaraMia]

My friends help more then my family ever has. Without them, i'd be still living at home....with alot of cats

[geoff]

The problem with asking for moving help from a friend is:

1. Their move is invariably more difficult than yours. And even if it isn't, you have crossed over into the range of being obligated to help out with nearly anything your friends ask you to do for life. It is like asking the Mafia for help.

2. There is a time in life in which your possessions are way too valuable to be moved to anyone who isn't insured for the damage that will occur during the move.

3. The truck will break down, someone will hurt their back, the elevator won't work and it will rain. Trust me.

[Jade]

Last time I helped was about a year and a half ago, from one state to another.

I did have friends help me move 15 years ago. Don't know if any of us wants to do that again!

[Phil]

I helped a friend move just a couple weeks ago. He's a good friend, meaning he had everything packed up in manageable sized boxes, did just as much lifting/moving as us friend-helpers, and basically was of the opinion that "just get the stuff moved inside" and he'd deal with sorting it into the correct room later.

Of course, the last time I moved, this very same friend (and the other friend who helped with the recent move) showed up so late that I was already done moving . . .

[Yoda]

As a single guy, I've often had friends help me move. Comes with the territory. Last time I helped anyone move, it was my daughter, when she moved out of her mom's place, and into mine. Who knew a 14 year old girl could have accumulated so much stuff?

~Kurt

[barbie2be]

does bringing my current roommate boxes yesterday count? she is moving in 2 weeks and i have been bringing her all the boxes i find at work so she can pack. if i could, i would be in her room packing for her... but only because i need her to get out of her rooms so that i can paint before i move into them from mine.

yes, the last time i moved i had a friend that helped me supervise the two guys that i hired from outside the home depot. she also went and got them some sandwiches and jamba juices. :)

[Thumper]

Friends don't have to ask friends to help them move bevause friends will volunteer...

Last move we made our son's friends helped out with all the really heavy stuff, all they wanted was pizza for lunch in return. Good kids. We paid 'em each $60 since they saved us a lot of hard work. I think they then spent it all on beer ;)

[Paige]

well over a year ago I helped a step daughter move. I have not asked anyone to help me as I'm funny & don't want to be obliged to anyone for the help. I am also stuborn & can do it myself!

[archshrk]

I've helped two people move just this past weekend and I'll be helping others over the next month. So yes, friends help friends move. I've been helped and I definately have helped others. As we like to say...

"Many hands make light work"

Several people helping out makes any move easier and faster. But if you are a real friend then when you move you'll make sure everything (I mean everything) is packed prior to the move. Too many times I've shown up to move someone and they still have most of their stuff left to pack. That's not cool.

[pantrygirl]

Hmm. I usually hire movers but I do ask help from close friends for other moving incidentals. i.e. packing party, watch my pets the day of the move, etc.

[Shannin]

My last move was paid for by my husband's employeers and I had several friends wanting to help (meaning, coming over to drink beer while I directed the professional moving crew). That was not the same response I got when we moved ourselves a few years back...

I would help, if asked, although I avoid those conversations...

[Keb]

My husband's best friend helped us move from UT to AZ. He is a true friend. My husband has helped all of his friends move too.

[Claire]

I've helped friends move, and friends have helped me move although last time I moved I did it entirely on my own with my little car....3 days, a broken toe (dropped a bookshelf piece on it) and hundreds of trips later it was finished!

[AOC]

In my collage years Iwas one of the few who had a pick-up truck. I was very popular at begining and end of the school year. Last move was helping my freind and co-worker move in to a new office across town. 2 u-hual trips later we were done

[Pickalish]

I have NEVER had help moving, and i've moved 8 times. Yet, I have probably helped 'move' friends somewhere in the area of 10-15 times. Yes, that's what GOOD friends are for.

[Catherine]

The last time we moved was about twenty years ago. Our friends promised to help and then didn't turn up. Our two year old helped magnificently. The last time I helped someone move was when I helped the above two year old (turned twenty two) move into her flat. That's what mothers are for.
Given the amount we have accumulated in the last twenty years, I dread the thought of ever having to move ourselves again

[Linda]

it depends on how you define "help"...I helped my friends move by watching their kids so the packers (ah, the bonus of being military, they pack and break your stuff FOR you) could do their thing without children underfoot. I also provided them with a warm homecooked meal after living in a hotel for a few days.

And I can't say that it was friends who helped, but some of my husband's soldiers came to move our temporary furniture up to the attic for us, and will be helping us bring it back down next week....

[trinity13]

My hubby and I recently helped my 97 year old grandpap move...it was great to be able to help him out.

When my hubby and I moved last winter, we had so many wonderful friends help us out!

[Grins]

How does the saying go? Friends help friends move. Best friends help friends hide dead bodies they moved. Something like that.

[Church]

To Connie I say: In my youth, of COURSE I asked my friends to help me move....with beer and pizza involved of course.

To Cindy I say: Of course, friends are there when you need them.

To you I say: I'm so sick and damn tired of moving that I know that is only 1/10th of the anguish my friends feel when I'm moving...AGAIN (it's become a running joke) therefore, I always plan $$ to hire someone *else* to do the moving for me and sweat it out alone.

Sigh.

[LilRed]

No one has ever asked me to help them move.

But twice my friends have helped me.