Marriage By the Numbers

Ideal Ae to Marry for Lifelon Happiness:

Some think the optimum ae for marriae can be revealed throuh mathematics. And what is that ae? Accordin to a researcher in reat Britain, the answer is riht here: M=Y+(1/e[X-Y]). That computes to 32 years old for men and 27 years old for women, reports London's Evenin Standard. This unusual bit of math wizardry is the handiwork of statistician Dennis Lindley, a professor at London's University Collee. He is confident his formula is so accurate that he says it will save marriaes and reduce the divorce rate. If men and women know the optimum ae at which to stop playin the field and start settlin down, then they won't marry too soon or wait too lon and be doomed to a loveless life.

Do you think that  you married  (or will marry) at an ideal ae? Do you think that there is such a thin as an ideal ae to marry?

Comments

[plumkrazzee]

I don't know if there is an "ideal" but there is definetely better ages than others. I'd say that's due in large part to general maturity. No matter who you are, you will NOT be the same person at 20 that you are at 32. It's a personal guarantee. I married my first husband 2 days after my 18th birthday, and although we were married for 7 years, every year became increasingly difficult as we matured and 'grew up.' The second time around, I was older...and had a completely different view of what I needed/wanted in a mate. Happily married 7 years now, and we are growing together instead of apart, as was the case the first time.

[tnchick]

The age I was married is not ideal... most drop their mouth, ask why, or assume I gave up a lot of my life by doing so young but - 13 years after I said "I do" to him... I'm still married to my highschool sweetheart. I wouldn't change a thing about the age or about our relationship. It's kinda scarey we're so close. Sadly, I know most young marriage don't work. I'm so proud not to contribute to those stats.

[Sandy J]

I think an ideal age is between 33-35. You seem to have a better idea of what you want in life

[Phil]

I think there is an ideal age at which to marry. But it varies with each person. Hopefully, the ideal age for me isn't 35 or less, cuz then I'd be kinda screwed lol.

[DebR]

Looks like my husband and I each just missed the formula's "ideal age". He was 33 and I was a month away from turning 27 when we got married.

I agree with Phil - there may be an ideal age, but I don't think it's the *same* ideal age for everyone. We all mature at different rates and want different things.

[Begered]

If 27 is the ideal age then I guess I am screwed! What a bunch of gobbly gook! The ideal age is when you are ready...

[Paula]

I got married at 27 and am separating. So much for formulas.

[Im chele In [dot] LA]

somewhere after 35 I would say is that best time....

[Scribe]

There's no such thing as an ideal age for marriage. It's all about maturity.

[Ravvy]

i think i'll *hopefully* get married when its the 'right time for me' not when i think its the right time, hence why im not in a hurry to date because i want it to be right... but if i married based on when i wanted to idealy... that would be now... its something im really looking forward to doing and so many of my friends are now married but i am excited to wait to see who 'my man' will be!

[Mamacita]

I'm not sure there is an "ideal" age for it, but I do believe that people who get married when they are still very young are missing out on a lot of 'single' fun (travel, 'hanging out,' carefree living, etc) (why, what were YOU thinking?) that people should have before they settle down. I've read that life is a book, and if you skip a chapter, you'll want to go back to it later to see what you missed. After marriage, that is not a decent option.

[Linda]

I married the first time at 26 - it wasn't ideal. Ideal time to have KIDS, but not to be married, lol!

I married the 2nd time at 32 - THAT was an ideal time to be married. My hubby was 32 as well - guess that made it ideal for him!

[daughter in law]

I'm sure there is but doubt it is something you can compute and it can't be the same for everyone. I was 26 and dh was 35.

[Goldie]

I knew I should have played the field for three more years! lol No, I didn't get married at an ideal age, and neither did my husband. Him being a year younger than I am, it would've been kinda hard for us to wait until I was 27 AND he was 32!

I think that, although there probably is an optimal age range in which to marry, the idea that a certain age should be ideal for everyone is just silly.

[Goldie]

As for skipping a chapter... yes, I guess we've missed on a few things, esp. since we started dating exclusively when we were 20 and 21. But, I have to tell you, the dating game got very old for me very fast. I was a late bloomer and started at 17; by the time I was 20, I was bored to death of it. I guess it's all very individual. There's no "one size fits all" recipe.
Plus... I'm 38... and my kids are already a teen and a preteen! There's definitely something to be said about getting your freedom back while you're still young. lol

[Samantha]

Well, I just turned 26, and my fiance is about to turn 36, so we're pretty close! Of course, this will be his second marriage, and they married when they were 22 and 23. We're hoping to elope this summer. We've been together for 6 years and living together for 4, so the marriage is really just a technicality.

[Erin]

That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. The ideal age is when you've found someone you don't want to spend another day of your life without. If you followed the "formula" you might miss out on the ONE, and just marry the person you *happened* to be dating at the time when you're at the right age.

You won't be the same person at 50 as you are at 33 either, but that's what marriage is about. You learn and grow together.

What will lower the divorce rate is people having realistic views about marriage and not getting married because they feel they *should* - a formula is the dumbest thing I've ever heard.

[Erin]

haha I said "the dumbest thing I've ever heard" twice. Guess I felt strongly.

But seriously, I'm getting married this year at 24. I'm not taking it lightly, and I'm really thinkin we'll make it. I'm not worried that we don't fit the "formula."

[Janet]

I am SO not qualified to answer this question!

[G]

No way. I'm going to be far "too old." I'll probably get married next year; I'll be 31 and he'll be 30.

[Cyndy]

I suggest a minimum of 26...and more probably 30!

[Leslie]

People are just too individual to fit into formulas; when it's right it's right. For me that is never!

[InterstellarLass]

The first time I definitely married too early. The second time (and final time!) I was above the 'optimum' age, so I guess I should consider myself lucky!

[Garrison Steelle]

I fear that such conversation is ultimately no more than an attempt to hedge an excuse against potential failure.

"We were too young."

"He was too old."

"She was just a child."

The problem lies not within the age of the participants but with the very definition of the institution.

(and you thought I wasn't paying attention)

;)

-G

[Jade]

I think there probably is an ideal age but I think it's individual and not something decided by a single formula.

I know I didn't marry at an ideal age.

[Thumper]

I was 20...probably way too young but you couldn't have convinced me of that back then. Still married, though, so maybe it was...

[kimbofo]

I've never married ... and I am way past the ideal age now!

[Claire]

Hmmm if 27 is the ideal age to be getting married for women then I guess I'd better get my skates on, I turn 27 in 7 months and am very much single...yikes!

I doubt I ever will get married, I've always had a feeling I would end up single and old...

[Christine]

When I was a kid, I always thought I would be at least 35 when I married. I met my husband when I was 25 and married him when I was 28, him 29. Personally, I wouldn't have been ready to marry before that.

Overall, I think in this day and age, late 20s-early 30s is ideal. That way, you know what you want, but you're not too set in your ways yet so you make your relationship impossible.

[Keb]

I don't know if there is an ideal age to marry. I think there are some who mature faster and as such, at younger ages and they are probably more prepared to be married. I think I got married at just the right time. I'll have my ten year anny on May 25th.

[srp]

There is never an ideal age to marry.
Don't marry because of love.
Marry your best friend, even if there is no head over heals ga-ga going on. That is fleeting anyway, and if you aren't friends to begin with... forget it.
If I were to ever marry again, it would be for friendship and financial security. Don't care what he looks like as long as we are friends, can speak our minds with comfort and we have the same goals.

[better safe than sorry]

no, i don't think a person's age has anything to do with the ideal reason to get married.

[Chris]

I married at 28 and my husband was 32. Next month will be 15 yrs for us. I'm glad I waited.

[AOC]

I would have to agree with the idea there is not a 'Ideal' age, but being ok with who you are and who the person you are marrying is. As long as both people are mature enough to have open communication and a willingness not to be "right" all the time. It’s about finding the right person not the right age (me: 28, wife: 24 when we married)