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Erin wants to know......

As a romantic esture, would you rather have your sinificant other brin you flowers or do the dishes without bein asked?

This question was asked in  The  Answer and Ask  Comment ame

Erin wants to know......

As a romantic esture, would you rather have your sinificant other brin you flowers or do the dishes without bein asked?

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[kenju]

Since I am in the flower business, I'd much prefer him doing the dishes without being asked.

[indigo]

DISHES!!!!!

[wavybrains]

DISHES!!! Although, I am very blessed, as he regularly does this, but still, DISHES. Every time.

[Bec]

flowers. he's already way beyond helpful in the house.

[Mar]

Flowers! He is the official cook around the house, I have my dishwasher...

[Zinnia Cyclamen]

Flowers, because that would be a BIG surprise, as he's never yet bought me flowers but he does do the dishes quite regularly.

[trinity13]

I wouldn't like it if the hubby did either one (flowers are not in the budget and it makes me feel lazy if he does the dishes for me...it's my job), but If I had to pick, it would be cheap flowers.

[rebeka]

Oh God can we have both? My husband hardly ever gives gifts for no reason, and the dishes ... okay I go for dishes.

[fatty]

Flowers. He makes me nervous when he dose dishes!

[Raehan]

Well, if the dish washing was four or more times a week, I'd take dishes.

If it was a one time only, flowers. Becaues flowers would last longer.

[xtessa]

romantic gesture would have to be the flowers... but a GRANDER gesture would be to wash the dishes and wait on you all day long!;)

[yoggy]

Flowers, has to be but Im afraid if doing the dishes unrequested was a romantic gesture then I would have other questions to raise!

[Seoulmom]

As I always tell my husband: a bezel-set diamond necklace. No, that wasn't one of the choices, but how far can you get if you always only follow the rules?

(Oh, okay, the washing the dishes one.)

[Marie]

Early on, I tried to convince my husband that it was a turn-on to have him do the dishes & clean up the kitchen without my asking. Then he got smart to me. Now he brings me flowers.

[Alessandra]

As a romantic gesture, I would prefer the flowers 'cause he does the dishes sometimes... when he's mad that I didn't do it. :)

[Pearl]

Help me with the dishes while playing in the washwater.

[atmikha]

I would want him to do the dishes, and if he eats off of them regularly, I would like to think that doing them is not a special gift to me, just normal hygiene. Does that make me a bad person?

[dena]

Flowers...he already does the dishes pretty regularly.

[Plumkrazzee]

Flowers. I've received flowers ONCE in the 6 years we've been married. But i'm not bitter, no, not bitter at all...huh uh...nope. =)

[Karen]

Dishes are great, but you can't wouldn't show off a pan of clean dishes to your girlfriends. I say flowers.

[Paula]

Flowers!! He does the dishes anyway--yeah, I have a great hubby! :)

[Diana]

Oh!! Definitely dishes!!!! that is an easy one!! LOL

[PHAT Mommy]

Dishes. Absolutely. But the ULTIMATE gesture would be to let me sleep in without me having to ask. Just. Once.

[Erin]

Thanks for using my question!

Ummmmm.... I got flowers last night and they are sitting next to me and BEAUTIFUL, and I do have to agree with Raehan that flowers last much longer than the ten or fifteen minutes it would take me to do the dishes.

So I say flowers. =)

[Adamant]

Flowers.

Doing the dishes isn't a romantic gesture, it's called sharing the work.

[Nancy]

I would rather have him cook dinner than do the dishes.

Dishes or Flowers?

Flowers!

[TC]

I would prefer flowers.

[Trista]

I'd take the flowers. He helps with the dishes enough as it is.

[Lish]

Flowers. I'm a control freak about the dishes. I know, I need help.

[Samantha]

Dishes, baby! We both agree that flowers make a pretty lousy gift. A gift is supposed to represent your love, and flowers die.

[JustLinda]

It depends, I think.

At any particular time, whichever one is designed to be MORE helpful/sensitive/supportive/uplifting would get my vote.

If I'm carrying the lion's share of housework (unfairly so, since we both work outside the home) then I wouldn't see him pitching in as some big GIFT - it would be more about what he should be doing anyway. If, however, we have a comfortable and equitable housework split and he's doing dishes to help alleviate some stress on me, then BIG POINTS for that.

If the flowers are a way to say "I was wrong and you were right and I bow down to your never-yielding superiority and humble myself to your sheer greatness" then perhaps that would be the winner for those circumstances. Whereas if the flowers were "I forgot to do anything special for your birthday and so I'm dialing a phone number and putting this on the credit card (which you manage and pay)" then I might not be as impressed.

Context is king.

[ribbiticus]

taking care of the dishes would be preferable to flowers, especially after a long day at work. it would should his sensitivity and love for me. :)

[better safe than sorry]

flowers, mine already helps out in the kitchen without being asked

[Goldie]

Definitely the dishes.

[keb]

Growing up in an incredibly dysfunctional (sp) house, my step dad always bought a gift after he was done being an ass. So, when TheMan and I got together, he gave me flowers after he had been as ass face to me. I threw them out. He asked WTF? I explained that he couldn't buy my love back and gave him some background on the sitch. So, with that baggage in mind, I'd choose neither. Flowers die and he already does the dishes. I'd rather have a little note, a reminder FYI I love you, he could write it on toilet paper for all I care. But it is something I could keep forever.

[kalisah]

the dishes. Definitely the dishes. And then it would be nice, too, if he would be willing to drive me to the emergency room when I then have a STROKE AND PASS OUT ON THE FLOOR.

[annie]

Flowers. I do all the housework anyway.
He does all the manly, heavy chores besides always putting gas in my car.

[nat]

The dishes. The dishes. I would have said the flowers 20 years ago, but then reality set in!

[Claire]

Flowers, I've never been given flowers by a significant other and have only received them when I've been in hospital or leaving a job (unless I've bought my own!)

[Scully]

Helping out with the day to day chores has nothing to do with romance. It has to do with being thoughtful and considerate and pulling your own weight.

Therefore, if I want a romantic gesture, it better be loads of flowers. The dishes I would expect help with regardless.

[InterstellarLass]

Flowers. I expect him to do the dishes without me asking.

[Shana]

Flowers... he always does the dishes!!

[chatty]

Mine always does the dishes without being asked. He doesn't, however, believe in flowers. So if he brought them home, after I dropped dead from shock, they could be used at my funeral! LOL

[november rain]

flowers

[maggie]

Dishes. Hands down.

[MommaK]

Dishes and then smelling salts

[Alisha]

Romance is romance, housework is housework...my vote is flowers.

[Princssis]

The dishes would be great, but I feel that is more of a responsibility of the family. For romance, it's flowers!

[Sally Flower]

My husband is always willing to help me, so it is not a question for him to do the dishes. But not very often. I try to do all household by myself, making him free to develop our family business. That's the base of our friendly life.